J. R. R. Tolkien said, "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us." I'm 30 years old. I'll be honest with you: I did NOT think I would feel anything about turning 30. I figured it would just be another birthday like all the others. But alas it was not like all the birthdays before. Suddenly it was as if my entire life flashed before my eyes and I was disappointed about quite a few things. Here I was, 30 years old, and still not living the dream I've had since being a small child. Here I was, 30 years old, and still not living where I wanted to live. Here I was, 30 years old, and still not living free from the fear of judgement of what others think of me. Here I was, 30 years old, and nearly everyday played out just like the one before it. It was like I opened my 30 year old eyes and only then realized I was starring in a real life groundhog day.
No, my life isn't a sad life. I have a huge amount to be happy and satisfied with. But I felt as if I had hit a plateau and was no longer going towards where I wanted to be. There are many factors of why I felt this way but as I looked back I was partly to blame. You see there were a multitude of days, weeks, even months where I chose to do nothing. When it came to my free time I was content with vegging out and "relaxing." I'm an introvert so I'm perfectly comfortable with doing nothing. Except I'm not okay with it at all. I crave to be creative. I hate if a day or a week goes by and I feel as if I've accomplished nothing. For some reason when I hit 30 I was flooded with these feelings.
Now those over 30 are probably rolling your eyes at me. "30 is so young." I know this but understand that I did not think I would be at nearly the identical spot I was at when I was 21 at age 30. And yet, I may be at a very similar place but I am such a different person. And that's what I choose to focus on. I'm honestly not sure I believe in fate but I do think some things happen for a reason. If I would have achieved my dreams at age 21 or so, where would I go from there? Not to mention I was chasing something at 21 that wasn't truly my honest dream. I was settling and listening to what others wanted more than what I wanted. So perhaps I would've become a tired and bitter person.
My life is (hopefully) far from over. But I honestly want to make the next 30 years more memorable than the first 30. I want to DO things! I want to CREATE more things! I want to look back and KNOW that I LIVED! We all have such a short time here on this planet that's flying through space. So why do we waste so much of it just sitting around doing nothing? Why are we content with making the focus of our days "can't wait to sit down and watch Netflix." I want to repeat that quote from J. R. R. Tolkien I started with, "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."
SO GET UP AND DO WHAT YOU DREAM OF! GO! LIVE LIFE!
I clicked on "Disappointed" and was not disappointed. That was hilarious! Also, hilarious blog background. On a serious note, I totally know what you're talking about here. I hit 30 a whole year before you and felt like I was having a quarter-life-crisis. The monotony of daily life bleeds from one day to the next. I'm in the trenches of motherhood right now, raising small babies. I know that that is where I'm supposed to be but after that? When those babies are no longer babies? It's something to figure out. Each day is a chance to live and be firm in the choices you make. Screw indecisiveness. I've let it rule me for a long time, mostly because I became complacent. But I do want to make a stand and be confident and go for what I want. I guess right now what I'm striving for is getting out of this house and neighborhood, so any time I have a chance to do something to meet that goal, I do it. Painting, cleaning, packing, researching how to sell, researching how to buy, looking at houses and different towns, etc.
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